Your changing sex lifeAfter the elation of finding out your wife's pregnant, you’ll likely find yourself pondering whether everything you’ve always heard about sex and babies is true. Will you still be as turned on by your wife during and after pregnancy? Will sex during pregnancy make either of you too worried about hurting the baby to enjoy yourself?
Will your wife be as sexually motivated as she was while you were trying to get pregnant? The only thing certain is that your sex life will change. The cold hard facts are that you will likely be having less sex from now on, a condition that extends beyond the birth of your new baby. Most of this is never discussed between dads, unless with a knowing wink or a pained joke.
Your desires
In the first trimester, you might feel hornier than ever. You’ll feel closer to your wife than ever before. You may feel a strange pride that people will know that you’re responsible for the baby growing insider her. On the other hand, pregnancy may create some contradictions. You now will be having sex with a mom, which might seem less than sexy to you. More likely, however, is that your wife’s increasingly full and curvy form will seem more erotic to you.
Her desires
Your wife’s desires will go up and down and can vary from trimester to trimester. She may be less inhibited without birth control, more intimate with you due to your new responsibility, and more sexy because of her filled out shape. For your sake, we’ll hope for this scenario. On the other hand, she may spend a lot of the first trimester vomiting. She may feel more maternal and less sexual, or she may just feel fat and unattractive.
Baby safety
Everyone worries at least a little bit about sex hurting the baby. It’s hard not imagine pushing deep into the baby’s temporary home with every thrust. Your baby is safe, however, within a cushioned amniotic fluid-filled sac. There is very little risk to your baby unless you're having very rough sex.
What you can do
As with most issues within a relationship, the best thing you can do is talk about your needs and desires. You may have to take the lead to try new positions and other options since traditional positions may become too painful or uncomfortable in the last months. Whatever makes your mate the most comfortable is your best chance at having a sex life through the third trimester.
Your desires
In the first trimester, you might feel hornier than ever. You’ll feel closer to your wife than ever before. You may feel a strange pride that people will know that you’re responsible for the baby growing insider her. On the other hand, pregnancy may create some contradictions. You now will be having sex with a mom, which might seem less than sexy to you. More likely, however, is that your wife’s increasingly full and curvy form will seem more erotic to you.
Her desires
Your wife’s desires will go up and down and can vary from trimester to trimester. She may be less inhibited without birth control, more intimate with you due to your new responsibility, and more sexy because of her filled out shape. For your sake, we’ll hope for this scenario. On the other hand, she may spend a lot of the first trimester vomiting. She may feel more maternal and less sexual, or she may just feel fat and unattractive.
Baby safety
Everyone worries at least a little bit about sex hurting the baby. It’s hard not imagine pushing deep into the baby’s temporary home with every thrust. Your baby is safe, however, within a cushioned amniotic fluid-filled sac. There is very little risk to your baby unless you're having very rough sex.
What you can do
As with most issues within a relationship, the best thing you can do is talk about your needs and desires. You may have to take the lead to try new positions and other options since traditional positions may become too painful or uncomfortable in the last months. Whatever makes your mate the most comfortable is your best chance at having a sex life through the third trimester.
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written by jo, 09 December, 2008
written by jo, 09 December, 2008
I'm on pregnancy number seven, not that that makes me an expert but my combined years of pregnancy has taught me one thing - if your body isn't happy with the way you're treating it it will let you know ! Some women experience and increased sexual desire whereas some women just don't feel up to as much as they used to. I too am going through a boosted libido at the moment and am taking the atitude of being sensible about it. Any bleeding or pain and you stop and call the midwife, and as pregnancy progresses try and keep it gentle if you can. So long as you're not having any complications go for it !
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written by Laura, 09 December, 2008
written by Laura, 09 December, 2008
im still pregnant..33 weeks today! but i have an incompetent cervix and had to have a cerclage at 19 weeks...we were told no sex...then i found out that i have pre cancer cells that need to be removed after i have the baby..so on top of no sex during my pregnancy...and then waiting 6 weeks after the baby is born and then ill have to get those pre-cancer cells removed (for a second time) and then that is another 4-6 weeks of no sex to heal all over again..i dont know how we are going to make it..im praying that everything goes ok cause we are the type of couple that if we havent had sex we get cranky and then once we are with eachother we are all better..so lets just hope that we can make it!!
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